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None are more dear. July 19, 2014

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“I look upon all creatures equally, none are less dear to me and none more dear.”

—Bhagavad Gita

Why should we assume that the lightning bug that flashes in the grass is less dear to the Creator than we are, that the dog abandoned at a shelter is less dear than we are, that the factory-farmed chicken or cow sent to the slaughterhouse or fish stabbed through its face with a hook and then tossed back in the water as “sport,” “catch and release,” is less dear than we are?

They are all innocent, and thus more dear than we are, who could have prevented their pain and celebrated their life, been their protectors and guardians, rather than their mindless abusers and killers. No wonder the followers of the Bhagavad Gita, Hindus, are vegetarian.

Just for today, be kind.

The year of giving back. July 18, 2014

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Do you have siblings, their spouses, nieces and nephews? Do you have children or even grandchildren, a spouse or beloved partner? Do you have living parents and/or grandparents, aunts and uncles, great-aunts and uncles? Why on earth am I asking this?!!

It’s because sometimes you inherit things that should belong to someone else. I adore my beloved partner, Rob, but think that things passed down through my family should belong to my family. I am childless. And my lifestyle is, to put it mildly, extremely modest. I love jewelry, but wear it to trips around our tiny country town and to dinner at country inns, where a bracelet, watch, and ring or two is really enough.

My beloved mother gave me the string of pearls that her grandfather gave her on her 16th birthday, back in the day when a girl’s turning 16 was a really big deal. It’s a really modest string by modern standards, but it comes with a lot of sentiment and a lot of family value. (I know: My own adorable grandmother brought me and my sister strands of Mikimoto pearls and matching earrings when she went to Japan. I don’t really have occasion to wear them, but I take them out and admire them and am so grateful to her for remembering us.) My niece turns 16 this summer, and I plan to pass my great-grandfather’s necklace to her for the occasion. It will look lovely on her slender neck.

By chance, I was transferring the contents of my safe deposit box, which contains the rest of the jewelry that I inherited, to my current bank this week, so of course I sat down and looked at it. It includes an antique gold men’s ring, adorned with a bloodstone, that should really belong to my brother and ultimately, my nephew, not to me. It also includes a diamond-and-platinum cocktail ring that belonged to my grandmother, which passed to me because I’m her namesake. Where shall I wear this, I asked Rob, to the grocery? But my sister-in-law, a high-powered lawyer who, with my brother, moves in power circles in Washington, might have occasion to wear it; why not give it to her? I have a beautiful pocketwatch that belonged to my great-grandfather; why not give it to my nephew?

As it happens, my brother and sister-in-law are stopping by for supper tonight en route to pick their kids up from summer camp. It’s the perfect opportunity to pass these family heirlooms along. I’d so much rather keep them in the family, and hope that they and their stories will be passed down through the generations, than try to make some money from them. Because this is a gift with history and love.

Just for today, love your family, not your stuff.

A personal energy crisis. July 17, 2014

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“When we find it difficult to love, we can think of it as a personal energy crisis.”

—Sri Eknath Easwaran, Words to Live By

Love is a renewable resource, like solar or wind energy, not a fuel like gas or coal that we hoard and fear will run out at any time, leaving us cold and stranded. Love is inexhaustible, and paradoxically, the more we share, the more we give away, the more we have, and the more we have to give.

The power behind love’s energy—the sun behind its solar panels, the wind that spins the windmill’s blades—is Usui Founder’s central Reiki Principle (aka Precept, Ideal): Be grateful.

Gratitude powers love. When you see a beautiful natural scene, and feel gratitude washing over you for the privilege of being in that beautiful place at that time, you also feel a rush of love for nature and our glorious earthly paradise. When you hear the tiny puff-puff snores of your enormous Maine coon cat and feel grateful to have his love and companionship, to be in the presence of such utter, oblivious contentment, you feel love swelling up and brimming over. When you see that your spouse or partner has done all the morning chores, knowing you’d been tossing and turning half the night, so you could get an extra hour’s sleep, and hasn’t even mentioned it, and you’re so touched and grateful, you feel love radiating out like the sun, blowing around you like the wind.

And because that energy continues to fill you through the power of gratitude, you have to express it in our Founder’s final Principle, Be kind. You can’t see a cashier or stylist who’s been standing on her feet for hours, or an older person struggling across a parking lot, or a server rushing around trying to deal with dozens or even hundreds of orders, without saying something kind, without displaying patience, without smiling. You can’t help waving at your neighbors, sharing a dish or some extra garden produce or playing with their dog or their kids, or picking up their newspapers and mail while they’re away.

You can find the strength to smile and say something kind to that obnoxious guy in the next cubicle, no matter what you’d really like to say, remembering that the alternative to the truth is silence. And you can let your love overflow when you’re at home with your family and pets, when you’re with your friends, when you’re caring for your plants or sitting on your deck, enjoying the stream and the yard and the birds, butterflies, lightning bugs, chipmunks, frogs, and other creatures with whom you share your life. You can let your gratitude and love flow back to your parents, relatives and ancestors, and all the happy memories they gave you, perhaps setting up a shrine with photos, flowers, incense, and candles, as I’ve seen at a fellow Reiki practitioner’s home.

Love is the one form of energy that’s truly inexhaustible. The more you give, the more you have. Don’t hoard it and let your batteries run down.

Just for today, be grateful and be kind.

Not forbidden. July 16, 2014

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“Everything not forbidden is compulsory.”
—Quantum mechanics principle, Nobel laureate and physicist Murray Gell-Mann

“Our virtues and our failings are inseparable, like force and matter. When they separate, man is no more.”
—Nikola Tesla

“If we believe that happiness arises only when some external condition is fulfilled, we consign ourselves to a perpetual state of discontent.”
—Sri Eknath Easwaran, Words to Live By

“When people see some things as beautiful, other things become ugly. When people see some things as good, other things become bad.”
—Lao Tzu (Laozi)

“Unity can only be manifested by the Binary. Unity itself and the idea of Unity are already two.”
—The Buddha

“If you are unable to find the truth right where you are, where else do you expect to find it?”
—Dogen Zenji

A Buddhist walked into a bar and told the bartender, “Make me One with everything.”

Duality and non-duality define the conflict between our mental and spiritual lives. Duality, dividing things into opposites, seems to be our native, reflexive state: this or that, this and that, this not that, this plus that, this minus that. Rich and poor, ugly and attractive, educated and ignorant, delicious and disgusting, old and young, fat and thin, athletic and indolent, pleasant and unpleasant, gifted and hopeless: The list of our dualities goes on and on.

And it is so hard to get away from them, even when we try as hard as we can. They may just be knee-jerk reactions brought on by cultural conditioning, or they may be hardwired into our system as a primitive survival mechanism that we just haven’t been able to ditch as we’ve evolved. Whatever the case, they stand between us and unity with the All, with all there is.

Every time we see a celebrity in a skimpy bikini and think something bad about her, or see a genuinely talented movie star posing in skimpy attire and wonder why women are still compelled to do that, whatever their acting gifts, and men aren’t, or curse an industry that promotes youth and anorexia as beauty while dissing and dismissing age and normal weight as hideous and unnatural, we’re following our natural human impulses. Ditto for cheering on one team and booing another, palling around with one coworker and avoiding another, spending way too much on a hot new car or tech toy rather than buying a sturdy, reliable used model.

Non-duality urges us to rise above all this, to see Kim Kardashian and Mother Teresa as one, Donald Trump and the Dalai Lama as one, Usui Founder and Hitler as one. To see the man who tortures helpless animals or, like Charles Manson, orders his followers to rip a pregnant woman’s baby from her womb, or, like the Taliban, cut the ears and noses off beautiful Afghan women simply because they’re beautiful, in the same light as we see Saint Francis, Rumi, or the Lord Jesus. Can we be, are we as humans, capable of this?

This state of non-duality is the very definition of sainthood, of enlightenment, satori. Its difficulty of achievement is why there are so few saints, so few enlightened ones. Blessed Mother Teresa was able to see in every human, however destitute, however ancient or ill, however hideous, “Christ in His distressing disguise.” She made no distinctions, she saw no duality. Her love was great enough to encompass all, even the rich and superficial.

As followers of the Reiki Way, we have the help of Usui Founder in our striving to move from duality (judgment) to non-duality (acceptance of all), through our practice of the Five Reiki Principles (aka Precepts, Ideals): “Just for today, don’t worry. Don’t get angry. Be grateful. Work hard. Be kind.” If we go through our day practicing the Principles as hard as we can, whenever we can, we will be moving further away from duality and closer, ever closer, to non-duality. Supplemental practices like meditation, chanting, and Reiki exercises such as deep (Hado) breathing, visualizations, and Hatsurei-Ho, also further our progress towards experiencing non-duality.

Let’s hit the (Reiki) road!

Just for today, follow the Principles.

Reiki add-ons. July 15, 2014

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Frans Stiene recently wrote a post on his International House of Reiki blog called “De-Attune?” (Google “ih reiki” and it will take you there.) It’s brought up some interesting issues about the nature of Reiki and some very interesting responses from Reiki practitioners.

Central to the post and the responses is the question “What is Reiki?” Originally, Reiki was the discovery of its Founder, Mikao Usui, when after a long and rigorous intellectual search for spiritual enlightenment, he received enlightenment, satori, on the slopes of Japan’s Mount Kurama after a 21-day fast. Clearly, it took physical as well as mental commitment to bring this about, body and mind in tandem.

Usui Founder’s experience brings to mind the Native American coming-of-age ritual called the Vision Quest, where adolescents were sent out to isolated areas to fast and pray until they received the vision that would give them their totem animal, their adult name, and shape their lives. I always thought the idea of finding your name, totem, and etc. as you grew up was a wonderful idea, since it set you free from others’ expectations, free to become yourself. Thus the child Jumping Badger became the great chief Sitting Bull. Too bad we don’t all do this.

But I digress. Usui Founder discovered on his way back down the slopes of Mount Kurama that his newly discovered gift of Reiki could be used for healing, and for the rest of his life, he used it to heal those in need, most famously after the Great Tokyo (Kanto) Earthquake of 1923, when he healed thousands of earthquake victims with Reiki and developed a huge following.

But Mikao Usui made a distinction between healing and teaching. When he taught, he taught the Five Reiki Principles (aka Principles, Ideals) as the foundation of Reiki practice: “Just for today, Don’t worry. Don’t get angry. Be grateful. Work hard. Be kind.” He gave reiju, now called initiations or attunements, but then regarded as simple spiritual blessings that strengthened one’s Reiki practice. He didn’t use symbols or specific hand positions or pretty much any of the things we in the West have come to associate with Reiki. In short, he taught his students according to their abilities and strengths, individually, and expected his students to do the same for their students. To his most gifted students, he shared the secret of enlightenment.

Since Usui Founder’s time, Reiki, or at least Western Reiki, has come a long way from its roots. There are so many different kinds of Reiki, often copyrighted by their developers, which incorporate crystals, Tibetan symbols, angels, chakras, Chinese meridians, shamanic techniques, you name it. “My Reiki is better/more exclusive/more expensive than your Reiki” has become an all-too-common refrain.

I have absolutely nothing against crystals, chakras, incense, Chinese medicine, and the like. I’m happy to incorporate them into my personal practice, along with the Native American techniques I use. I just wouldn’t call any of them Reiki. They aren’t Reiki. I don’t teach them. Please, let’s try to remember what Reiki is—a simple, powerful Way that leads to enlightenment—and what it isn’t. Reiki doesn’t demand that we give up anything along its Way, only that we “work hard” to achieve its end.

Just for today, stay on course.

Is Reiki a religion? July 14, 2014

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In a word, no. Reiki’s Founder, Mikao Usui, was a Buddhist; like all Japanese, he also practiced the national religion, Shintoism; he also studied Christianity. He never saw Reiki as competing with or conflicting with any religion. Instead, he saw it as a spiritual life Way, a road to enlightenment, satori, whether you believed in one religion, many religions, or none. Reiki was not a replacement for religion; there is no Reiki deity.

Instead, Reiki reminds me of the discipline of Soto Zen meditation. The meditation is a transformative exercise that can lead to enlightenment, but it is not Buddhism, not even Zen Buddhism. It is a technique, shikan taza, “just sitting.” Reiki also involves a series of techniques, a discipline, that can lead to enlightenment. And they are available to everyone, no matter what their faith.

Thus, it makes me very sad when my own Catholic faith rejects Reiki, and it makes me nervous when someone claims Reiki in the name of Buddhism or Jesus or angels or whatever. Usui Founder gave us ALL Reiki, whatever our beliefs. Let us all progress on our Reiki path without condemning those whose beliefs are different from ours. Let us not try to make Reiki exclusionary. Let us embrace our diversity and keep our feet on the path.

Just for today, be grateful and be kind.

Who you are. July 13, 2014

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“Love is inseparable from knowledge.”
—Saint Macarius of Egypt

“The joy of Being, which is the only true happiness, can not come to you from any form, possession, achievement, person, or event—through any thing that happens. That joy can not come to you—ever. It emanates from the formless dimension within you, from consciousness itself and thus is one with who you are.”
—Eckhart Tolle

“Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.”
—The Gospel According to Saint Matthew

So many of us separate emotion from knowledge, religious experience from knowledge, joy from knowledge. But the great sages tell us that joy comes from knowledge, love comes from knowledge, compassion comes from knowledge: knowledge of ourselves, knowledge of others, knowledge of the universe and our place within it.

Just for today, be kind.

I can’t stop. July 12, 2014

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I know this post isn’t going to sit well with many of you. Why do I know that? Because the only other time I addressed this topic was the only time I’ve ever gotten negative feedback on this blog. So why am I writing about it again, when it seems a given that I’ll be battered by a barrage of negativity and hostility from a group of people who are normally kind, loving and tolerant? And what on earth could I write about to produce such a shocking transformation?

Vegetarianism, of course. I was reading the latest copy of VegNews the other night. They often ask their contributors and interviewees why they decided to become vegans. (VegNews is a vegan, not vegetarian, publication. Vegans don’t eat dairy products, yeasted breads, or honey and avoid clothing, shoes, accessories and jewelry made from animal-derived things like fur, bone, and leather. They also avoid beauty products, vitamins and the like that contain animal-derived materials like keratin, gelatin, fish oil, krill, and so on.) Vegetarians have a lot more leeway than vegans, since we can eat infertile eggs, dairy products, yeasted breads, and honey if we choose to, though stuff like fish oil and gelatin are still verboten.

But I’m getting ahead of myself here. People become vegetarian or vegan for one of three reasons: because they think it promotes good health; because they already have health issues like allergies, obesity, or, God forfend, cancer; or because they think killing animals for food and eating them is morally wrong. (The three, obviously, aren’t mutually exclusive, but usually it’s a health thing or a morality thing, not both.)

Getting back to that issue of VegNews, one woman said her “Aha” moment came when she was working at an animal shelter and everyone at the shelter was furiously trying to find a good home for a rescued pig. They all loved the pig; they worked like mad to get it a safe “forever” home. Then they all went to a picnic, where a plump, juicy ham was being sliced and served, and every single one of them except the woman in question chowed down with great pleasure. Not one of them connected the dead pig on their plate with the live pig they’d worked so tirelessly to save.

This reminds me of a wonderful cartoon from the “Pearls before Swine” artist Stephan Pastis. His protagonist (a pig, as it happens) is having supper at a posh restaurant when the server arrives with his entree. “Eeesh. What IS that?” the horrified pig asks. “Fish. It’s what you ordered,” the server replies. “But why does it look like that?” the pig inquires. “Because it’s a fish,” the server responds. “Would you like it to look like a cow?” “No,” the pig replies, “But I want it to look like something that wasn’t alive.” “Sir, we’re a three-star Michelin-rated restaurant,” the server says. “That’s how fish is served.” “No, no, please,” the pig begs. “Just make it look like food. Good old magical food that comes from nowhere and magically appears on my plate.”

Too many of us approach our food this way. Maybe we make an effort to patronize our local farmers’ market, to join a CSA (organic weekly, local produce supplier), buy organic, avoid GMOs, hydrogenated and trans-fats, high-fructose corn syrup, and heavily processed foods. We’re doing what we can for OUR bodies. But are we still supporting the murder of millions of farmed animals, eating meat, eating fish, eating animal products, denying that our brothers and sisters in the animal kingdom have feelings?

This past week, I read about an elephant who’d been rescued after being shackled for 50 years. When he was freed from his chains, he wept. Yet we still keep insisting that animals don’t have feelings, so we can continue to do experiments on them to benefit ourselves. So we can continue to kill, eat, and wear them. So we can abuse them to produce personal hygiene and beauty products. What kind of monsters are we?!!! How can we act like this and still claim to follow the Reiki Way?

I wish every Reiki publication, online and in print, asked its contributors and interviewees the same essential question VegNews asks theirs: What caused you to come to Reiki? It’s a simple question, and I’m sure the range of answers would be fascinating. I’ll tell you what brought me to Reiki in my next post. Feel free to share what brought you to the Reiki path in the comments on this post or the next, or submit a guest post of your own about your Reiki journey. I’m a Luddite, a techno-idiot, but if I can figure out how to put your post up on The Reiki Blog, I’d be so happy to feature your story!

As for those who would attack me, fire away. It won’t be the first time.

Just for today, don’t get angry.

The less we own. July 11, 2014

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“The more we have the less we own.”

—Meister Eckhart

No wonder businesses hate Boomers and target teens instead.

Just for today, be grateful.

When goodness is lost. July 10, 2014

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“When goodness is lost, it is replaced by morality.”

—Lao Tzu

So many modern religions, and modern societies, emphasize morality, the code that defines the way we should behave. Not that this is a new development: Think of the Ten Commandments, the moral code Moses gave the Jews. Judeo-Christian faiths all adhere to the Ten Commandments as the basis of moral behavior to this day, or at least give them lip service. (I haven’t noticed “Thou shalt not kill,” “Thou shalt not covet,” or “Honor thy father and thy mother” being especially honored in our day or throughout our history.)

I was very surprised by Lao Tzu’s quote. Having grown up with the Ten Commandments, I’d assumed they were guidelines for living, much like Usui Founder’s Five Reiki Principles (aka Precepts, Ideals).

I realized that bigots and monsters manipulated the Commandments for their own ends, twisting “Thou shalt not kill,” for example, to mean that no woman should receive birth control but men could hunt down and kill animals, wage war, and execute criminals without a second thought. “Honor thy father and thy mother” is the least honored of all the Commandments, as people view their aging parents as a liability and stuff them in nursing homes or assisted living facilities, abandon them, insist that they die without even the comfort of hydration, as the DJ Casey Kasem’s daughter recently did to him. Shame, shame on her!!! Ditto for all the children and pets left to die in hot cars, the loving pets and children abandoned.

Lao Tzu tells us that morality isn’t enough, it’s not a replacement for our inherent goodness. What we’re commanded to do doesn’t replace our natural instinct to love and nurture an infant, dog, or cat; to love, respect, and learn from our elders; to make sure the physically and mentally challenged in our society are loved, cared for, and treated like everyone else, and ditto the homeless, poor, uneducated, ugly, and obese.

Lao Tzu’s goodness doesn’t see the Victoria’s Secret model as valuable and the obese writer who chose to post a photo of herself bulging out of a bikini as revolting. Goodness doesn’t see the old dog who’s been dumped at a shelter as less valuable than the gorgeous, much-awarded champion exemplar of his breed. Goodness sees everyone and everything from a flat playing field, and that playing field is love.

Just for today, be good.

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